In recent years, there has been a concerted effort to solve the shidduch crisis. Some of the recent developments in the world of shidduchim have truly changed the shidduch system as we have known it. However, there is no question that the challenges faced by many singles still exist.
As single Bais Yaakov girls in our mid-twenties, having dated for several years, we’d like to advocate a practical idea that could be easily implemented. Having, boruch Hashem, had the opportunity to attend many weddings over the years, we have been approached by many people who have asked us about the kinds of boys we’re looking for and even suggested specific ideas. Often, these boys are at the very same wedding, just on the other side of the mechitzah. It’s not uncommon for a boy or girl to be pointed out to each other at a wedding, so why not a formal introduction?
At any given wedding, there are married couples who are in the position to introduce girls and boys. We believe that it could be constructive to arrange introductions and brief meetings during the inevitable down time. If an initial meeting could be arranged at a wedding when the girl has already invested the time to look her best and the boy has already made the trip, time could be saved on both ends. The boys often have long lists of girls who sound similar and even a short meeting can be helpful in bringing the person on paper to life. If the meeting is suggested by someone you know and trust, it could be worthwhile to meet the prospective person for a few minutes, even before the research is done to ascertain whether a date is worthwhile.
It’s always difficult to make a change to an established system, and we know that this is not a perfect solution, but we strongly believe that this concept has potential.
May we be zoche to see simchos lead to new simchos!
From Behind the Mechitzah