Inspired By the Bulletin Board


bmgbulletinboardletter3[Images below.] One might say that the contents of a yeshiva bulletin board reflect, to a certain degree, the nature of the yeshiva and its talmidim. Beth Medrash Govoah of Lakewood, the largest yeshiva in the country, has its share of bulletin boards, which serve to inform talmidim and others who frequent the yeshiva of shiurim, events, simchos and myriad other things.

The following three notes are a sampling of some that have been posted recently at Beth Medrash Govoha. They convey the heightened level of sensitivity possessed by the bnei hayeshiva at having possibly inconvenienced someone and a desire to right a wrong. In each of the instances, the protagonist, on his own, reaches out to a person who may have been wronged to make amends. We are sure this brings a tremendous nachas ruach to the Ribono Shel Olam.

Letter 1 can be seen by clicking here. The text is as follows:

bmgbulletinboardletter1To the person I blocked in in the gravel parking lot (Mon. morning Beshalach), I am so sorry for causing you such aggravation. I absentmindedly removed my keys thinking I had left them in the ignition in the event you’d leave before me. Please call me so I can ask you mechilah personally. Yisroel 732….

Letter 2 can be seen by clicking here. The text is as follows:

Atah nosein yad laposhim

More than twenty years ago, I “borrowed” $20 from a box of seforim being sold in the lobby outside the main bais medrash. All I can remember is that it was a large size black sefer on Shas or halacha. If anybody knows whose it was, please email me at Thank you.

Letter 3 can be seen by clicking here. The text is as follows:

bmgbulletinboardletter2I broke a set of big menorah glasses that were lying on a chair near the menorah tables the day after Chanukah. If yours, please call 347……

Mi ke’amcha Yisroel. What nation is as special as Klal Yisroel, whose honesty and integrity are part of our genetic makeup.

How fortunate we are to have bnei Torah whose learning and diligence are combined with impeccable bein adam lachaveiro and a desire to constantly improve and do what is correct.

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  1. I don’t know exactly which “gravel parking lot” was referred to in the first note, but it reminds me of an issue which needs addressing.

    There is a good-sized parking lot alongside the playground by the lake. Does this parking lot belong to the Yeshiva? I don’t think so. Isn’t it provided by the town, primarily for the use of visitors to the playground and lake? Yet, on numerous occasions I have come with my 4-year old daughter only to find every nook and cranny filled with cars belonging to yeshiva yungleit (even when there were very few children in the playground) forcing me (and others of course) to hunt for a spot on the crowded streets. It is just SO anguishing. Am I wrong to consider this a terrible example of inconsiderate behavior?

  2. BMG has it all worked out with the township to use the park on 2nd street for the talmidim of the yeshiva . there is an offical shutttle transfering the yungerlite from the parking lot to the yeshiva in the begining and at the end of seder. Lakewood is proud to have many parks please be considerate and find a diffrent park for your children during sedder hours

  3. you left out another important notice on the bulletin board- If anyone took a Black trench coat Size 44 on Shabbos parshas Shemos (after mincha)please call 732-468-xxxx

  4. I was once learning and I picked my nose in public. I would like to beg Mechila from the Tzibbur! It must of been in 1994. Or maybe 1995.

  5. to Shmuel Alef: If you would be as ehrlich in dinei mamonus as these people, then you are are not chopped liver. If not, consider yourself lucky that you live near others who on that madreiga, (isn’t that why you settled in Lakewood in the first place?) and use it as an ideal that we can all strive towards.

  6. Both sides in this debate make a point. Of course it is proper to try to find some unknown person you B’avalt in order to pay back or ask Mechila. But, understanding the diverse readership that any and every site on the web has, it was in appropriate for Matzav to cover this as a news item. It was viewed by some with derision and others as Ga’ava. Everyone knows it is a good thing to do, but it becomes cheapened when treated so publicly as a cause for one to pat himself on the back. Hatzne Leches.

  7. This is a legitimate “human interest” story as regularly appears in the NY Times on various commun ities and issues…
    Lets stop this childlike comments and just reflect on what a wonderful people we are! 1,2,4,5,6,7,10,11 grow up.

  8. It took him TWENTY years to fess up to his crime? And you say “Mi k’amcha…?”
    The second guy parks his car with abandon because obviously HIS time is more valuable than yenem’s and because , after all, “Bishvili Nivra Haolom”.
    The third guy carelessly breaks someones Menorah gleizelach because HIS jacket deserves a M’chubadike makom, regardless of who he is mazik.

  9. not to sound negative, but if you look closely at all three notes you will see that if any of these people were machshiv other people, none of these stories would of happened. I am not trying to belittle these people, I am impressed that they are trying to make amends but if any of them had had kavod zeh lazeh, none of these stories would of happened. Parking and blocking someone else in, even if you leave the keys is making whatever you have to do more important than the time and koach of the person you blocked in. It is difficult to move your car then his own car and finally your car back. Park a few blocks away and walk and then you will have no need to ask mechila from this unknown person. the second note the person stole, I am glad he wants to make amends but i should be impressed that he is so yeshivish and frum that he stole?!!!! The third person is probably not at fault because had the owner not left his glass cups on a chair then they would probably not have broken. so to the person apologizing, he sounds like a mentch, but if the person who left the glasses on the chair would have behaved like a mentch then there would have been no reason to apologize. Maybe everyone could just behave like mentchen lechatchila and then we wouldn’t have to be impressed at their tzidkus when they apologize, because they would not need to apologize.

  10. Dear Gavriel the nose picker. Yomim al ymeah melech toisef shinoisov kimoi dor v dor. I am mochel you b’lev sholem. I appreciate your owning up to your actions after all these years. It really bothed me at the time and now i am finally able to get over it. shgoyach!!!

  11. to num 14 and 15,
    1)the one who wants to pay back after 20 years is just doing what halacha requires of him. Tshuvah is a big thing after any amount of years.

    2) The menora story is one of these things that just happen. You don’t know what the scenario was that he had to but his glasses/ jacket on the chair. I’m sure you’ve had a similar incident.

    3) As far as the parking lot goes, the system in yeshiva is that when you park you are doing it with the understanding you will be blocked in. The blocker didn’t do anything wrong by parking there, it’s not the same as double parking in flatbush or boro park. The only thing is he accidently took his keys with him so the person he blocked was stuck. Again, these things happen. I’m sure you’ve also forgotten something at someone else’s expense.

    These people aren’t fakers. They’re not doing it for kavod. They didn’t sign their names, they just give the minimum info so that they can be contacted. They are doing it because they are erlich. Even if you think it’s a “frummie” thing to do, respect the fact they want to do what’s right. It’s not something to be made fun of.

  12. It’s all very nice to ask mechila, after all, we are all human and make mistakes. The next time I make a mistake and ask for mechila I would like to be written up on the internet, so that I can anonymously receive tremendous kavod and make sure that every Jew will say that my neighborhood or yeshiva is just overflowing with tzidkus.

  13. Matzav, why do you post these stupid comments of all those people who have nothing better to do with their lives than criticize?! It’s mind boggling how their are so many people ( or is it the same few who post under different names?) that love arguing, and no matter what the issue is they will argue the other side!
    If you have nothing smart to say- SAY NOTHING!
    There’s a quote that goes something like this: “Since light travels faster than sound, their are some people that appear brighter until you hear them speak.” Or, “Better to keep your mouth shut and be considered as a fool, than to open it and remove all doubt.”
    Seriously Matzav, the job of a Torah website is not just to sensor the media from secular society, but to moderate and block comments that are seeping with Sinas Chinam from our ‘heimishe velt’.
    And to all those commenters who can’t read an article like this without attacking, I have advice for you. Keep a recorder or diary near your computer and any time you feel the need to expell your garbage, please dump it on your recorder or diary BUT NOT ON MATZAV!!.
    I think that I’m speaking for many people when I say that nowadays with all the controversy that exist within the frum world, it’s necessary to read nice articles like this. It’s always so distressing for me to read nice articles like this one… and then to read the pathetic comments below.
    If the post doesn’t agree with you, or if you doubt its veracity- then leave it. Simple as that- take it or leave it. No one’s forcing it down your throat. And even if this story is a bluff( which I highly doubt, considering that if BMG is the biggest yeshiva in the U.S, these bulletin board notes can easily be verified)it won’t harm you if you read it, as opposed to reading some of the above comments- those can be hurting!