My Brother-in-Law Menachem Stark Leaves Seven Children and a Wife Who Miss Him


menachem-stark-family1By Avrohom Buxbaum

My brother-in-law, Menachem Stark, was killed this weekend. A 39-year old father of seven, he will be missed by his wife, children, friends, and so many others. He had so much ahead of him and his loss is a tragedy for all of us. He left home Thursday, and simply never returned home. To our shock and horror, he was kidnapped, his body burnt and dumped in a garbage dumpster. We are in shock, our lives forever changed. Indeed, with that as we have seen throughout history, another Jew has been killed.

My brother-in law and friend, Menachem, was a great husband and great father. He smiled and was a man who was involved with his children and never missed a chance to spend time with them – and help others in the community. He spent hours weekly with each of his kids, and gave charity. His children will never again hold their father’s hands, and he will never be able to dance at his children’s weddings. Menachem “Max” was someone who always made the people around him smile, and was so good to so many.

His murder by the men who killed him is a tragedy which will haunt and affect all of us.  He was murdered a second time by The New York Post who ran his picture with the front-page headline “Who didn’t want him dead?” Their sick, despicable and untrue story was character assassination, providing justification for the murder of Menachem. Terrible untruths were told about a man no longer able to defend himself, against a family who doesn’t deal with the outside world. Indeed, we cannot even repeat the words of their headline. We miss him and love him and our hearts ache.

Despite media allegations and innuendos, Menachem Stark was never arrested, and was never charged with any wrongdoing. While he had some business difficulties in the last few years, these last few years in the real estate market have been tremendously challenging for so many Americans. No one in the media spoke to the many tenants who will sing his praises.

Media implications that murdering a landlord is acceptable, are horrific. What happens if the next victim is a Jewish lawyer or doctor? Or an accountant when it is tax time? Menachem was a good man who tried his best – and for us, he was someone we loved. A family member, a father, a brother.

The old adage that ” there are two sides to every story” clearly doesn’t apply when it comes to a Jew wearing Chasidic garb. There are Jewish orphans throughout history who have seen their fathers killed with impunity. The media has sent the message that Jewish blood is cheap.

As we sit Shiva, in mourning, we sit in more pain due to the hateful newspaper headlines. We don’t read The New York Post or other secular newspapers, and we don’t watch TV. What we do know is that we don’t deserve to have his murder sensationalized at this time of tragedy.

This story encouraged anti-Semitism and violence, and hurt us tremendously.

At times like these, we continue to put our full faith in the almighty, and trust that Menachem’s soul is at peace. Menachem: We will miss you and we love you. Boruch Dayan Emes.

Avrohom Buxbaum is married to Menachem Stark’s older sister. They were friends and spoke multiple times a day.

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  1. we are not safe anywhere.This is as bad as hitler y’ms.We all have to be nicer to each other and that will bring the real Geula Amen.

  2. Oy, this is truly heartbreaking! May Hashem be menachem this almanah and her little yesomim & may this be the final tzaar before the coming of Mashiach, really really soon!

  3. Why do you have to compare this to Hitler. Hitler murdered 6 million people in the most gruesome and humiliating ways possible for no reason at all but that they were Jewish. As tragic as any one death is, this histerical comparisons are ridiculous.

  4. #1, I hate it when people use the Holocaust as a comparsion to anything tragic. As tagic as this was, it pales in comparison to what went on then. So dont compare the two