Ron Yitzchok EisenmanBy Ron Yitzchok Eisenman, Rabbi, Congregation Ahavas Israel, Passaic, NJ

Shocked, stunned, numbed, and speechless; these are just a few of the words which describe our feelings.

As Shabbos came to a close, all of us were informed that the massive search for the safe return of Devorah bas Shoshanah Rus and the tefillos which were being said on her behalf have been halted.

As Shabbos ended, the news traveled quickly that Devorah Stubin was not coming home.

Our hopes for her safe return were dashed as news of her demise was quickly disseminated in the Jewish world and beyond.

Plans for a celebration when she would be found were now replaced with arraignments for a funeral.

I did not know Devorah bas Shoshanah Rus; many who did tell me she was indeed a special neshamah.

I did not know her; however, I do know many of those who sacrificed Shabbos with their families to spend Shabbos in Maywood, New Jersey, in the cold and in the rain.

Jews from Brooklyn, Lakewood, Monsey, Teaneck, Elizabeth, Passaic, Clifton and other places all joined together through their hearts and hands left the comfort of their homes and their families to search and attempt to find a young woman whom they never had met.

They survived on an hour of sleep here and there and on high-energy-caffeinated-beverages throughout the day.

They did not care about hot chulent or warm beds. They did not think about what sihul they should go to or not go to. Their focus was singularly on the finding of Devorah bas Shoshanah Rus.

No one cared if you were Chassidish or Litvish, modern or not, if you wear a hat or if your wife wears a shaitel or a tichel. All they cared about was Devorah bas Shoshanah Rus.

Dozens and dozens and volunteers left their warm beds this Shabbos to help find a young woman whose name most had never heard of before Thursday evening.

The togetherness and the unity allow me to feel consoled and that is good.
The outcome was not what he davened or hoped for; however, the display of unity is what we daven for.

I was privileged to count among the many volunteers who gave up their Shabbos for Devorah’s sake two of my own sons.

Both of them spent hours and hours searching and looking for Devorah bas Shoshanah Rus.

Yesterday morning, at 7 o’clock, my son and I left the house together.

He was on his way to search for Devorah and I was on my way to search for Hashem.

Before I headed to shul, I walked him to his car.

I proudly stood by as he entered the car and gave him a brochah for success.
As I watched him pull away from the curb, I thanked Hashem for giving me children who care enough about His children to know that sometimes serving Him means even driving on Shabbos.

As Shaya turned the corner, I turned to shul.

As I walked, I wondered which one of us was the one to emulate: the rabbi on his way to shul or the rabbi’s son on his way to find a lost Jew.

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  1. I believe this is a misplaced article. Rabbi eisenman should be concentrating on our loss of devorah, not on how proud he is of his son. I can’t imagine this will give any kind of chizuk to her parents.

    Imo anochi b’tzarah

  2. This is horrific, the 9th innocent child/infant niftar in January

    1)Captain Yishai Russels-of Moshav Beit Meir of Jerusalem-killed at the Tzeilim base in southern Israel as a result of a training mishap involving a mortar shell-January 5 2016-23

    2)Tehila Ochayon,-from Rehovot, Israel-drowned in a hotel pool during a Chanuka Vacation-January 6 2016-6

    3)Moshe Refoel Mizrachi- grandson of Beit Shemesh Mayor Moshe Abutbul-Head wounds of being mishandled by a caregiver-January 7 2016-4 months old

    4)Child-of Ramot Shlomo in Yerushalyim-lost consciousness & went into Cardiac Arrest-January 10 2016-2

    5)Talia Zarihan-of Israel-suffered from a heart defect since birth-January 11 2016-18 months

    6)Child-of Kiryat Ata, Israel-did not awake the next morning, caused by “crib death”-January 12 2016-18 months

    7)Daniella Moffson,-Daughter of Michael & Sheera of the Upper East Side-killed in a bus accident in Honduras, -January 14 2016-21

    8)Devorah Stubin-of Passaic NJ-Found in car in the Passaic River-January 15 2016-24

    9)Girl-of Highland Park NJ-struck by a car today, in front of the Agudah shul-January 16 2016-6 yrs. old

    Look at their tragic young ages niftar

    Do you think its coincidence?

    perhaps its finally time for a z’man of Teshuva Kinnus & Taanis. how sad & tragic must the situation in klal yisroel get C”V before we admit to ourselves that its time for us to finally get together as a nation & do teshuva?

    May all the nashamos have an aliya

  3. to comment from b

    if you dont like what rabbi eisenman wroe
    write an article yourself
    very easy to criticize

    if you would bother to think for a moment and not rush to condemn
    and actually read his very well written article (as all of his articles are very well written and usually emotionally laden)
    he says he did not know the girl or the family
    so hes not writing about them but about a fine hour of clall yisroel including a member of clall yisroel -his son

  4. That was a very heartfelt essay on one person’s experience during this tragedy. It’s not a history book. It was just the some emotions many of us had. Some running off to daven others running to help look. What a beautiful thing to think about today.

  5. Mr b, this article isn’t about the tragedy. The rabbi addresses that from the outset.

    It’s about our response, which you clearly fail to follow on many levels.