R’ Shloime Lewenstein: Close-in-Age Shidduchim On the Rise June 26, 2009 1:30 pm
Since Matzav.com posted a letter from the gedolim earlier this week encouraging bochurim in the parsha of shidduchim to consider marrying a girl who is “older,” we have received tremendous feedback from readers, thanking and supporting Matzav for posting the important letter. We have also received a number of inquiries from readers who wished to know how much real progress has been made in this regard and how many close-in-age shidduchim are being made.
Rabbi Shloime Lewenstein, a renowned shadchan from Lakewood, NJ, was kind enough to share with Matzav.com his experience in this regard.
We’d be remiss if we did not first express Klal Yisroel‘s collective appreciation to Rabbi Moshe Pogrow of the NASI Initiative. Rabbi Pogrow has, l’sheim Shomayim, dedicated himself to raising awareness of the shidduch crisis, the importance of close-in-age shidduchim, and the view of rabbonim in addressing the matter.
The following is Rabbi Shloime Lewenstein’s response to the above letter from the gedolim and the effect that efforts to increase close-in-age shidduchim have had:
In the year ad a half since this letter was first published I have seen a tremendous change in the shidduch scene. Boys (and their parents) are much more willing to do shidduchim with girls their own age or even slightly older. Such readiness to date close in age has the potential to greatly alleviate was has become known as the shidduch crisis.
Mention must also be made of the wonderful NASI Project that is at the forefront of this movement and is committed to close the age gap and thus ease the crisis