In an article in a recent edition of Yated Ne’eman, Rabbi Binyamin Pruzansky shared thoughts about his rebbi, Rav Dovid Kviat zt”l, who was recently niftar. Among the interesting anecdotes were several exchanges with Rav Kviat regarding shidduchim.
Rabbi Pruzansky relates:
“I once asked Rav Dovid, ‘What does the Rosh Yeshiva think about the way shidduchim work today, with the girl’s side having to take upon themselves a monthly stipend of anywhere from one to two thousand dollars or more, for otherwise the shidduch is off?’
“Rav Dovid replied, “It doesn’t make any sense. Each side should do whatever they can to help the young couple. With my children, we never got involved in a shidduch that made such demands, and, boruch Hashem, I was zocheh to marry off all of my children and they all turned out just fine.”
Rabbi Pruzansky once asked what the Rosh Yeshiva thought about the shidduch crisis. There are so many older single girls who have not found their bashert, Rabbi Pruzansky commented.
Rav Dovid answered, “They should have bitachon, because they will all find their shidduch eventually.”
Rabbi Pruzansky asked, “Is there anything they could do to have their tefillos answered soon?”
Rav Dovid said, “They should involve themselves in chessed. That will be a zechus for them to have their tefillos answered and find their shidduch.”
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reb dovid was an ish emes !
i couldnt agree more!!that means even if the girls parents have money the boys parents should help whatever they could.you dont sell ur children.
the title is misleading the article doesnt talk about “rich shidduchim” at all.
This is beautiful! There are many comments that I and others recently posted at Matzav articles [see: http://matzav.com/opinion-shidduch-crisis-dont-look-to-the-age-gap, comments #7, #12, & #15, and http://matzav.com/opinion-frum-divorce-rate-is-up, comment #14, and http://matzav.com/the-matzav-rant-tuition-and-seminary, comment #41] about the problem of people demanding exorbitant amounts of money before agreeing to a Shidduch.
Now, right here we have the words of one the greatest Gedolay HaDor, ZT’L, regarding this. It is noteworthy that he does not lower himself to give a long complex speech condeming the issue. Rather, he simply brushed off the bizarre phenomenon: “It doesnt make any sense . . . With my children, we never got involved in a shidduch that made such demands, and, boruch Hashem, I was zocheh to marry off all of my children and they all turned out just fine.”