Report: Forcing Costumes on Babies Can Ruin Purim


xmas-purim-costumes-smallPurim is a happy and joyous occasion for Jews, but forcing babies and small children to masquerade in unwanted costumes can cause them trauma, according to psychologist Shlomit Kanotopsky.

“Parents who buy costumes for babies often do it for themselves,” says the psychologist, who works at the Ziv Hospital, located in Tzefas. She suggests parents be especially sensitive to children’s fears and trauma that can develop by wearing unwanted costumes, which parents sometimes insist on to justify what often is an expensive purchase.

While adults and older children know Purim as a happy occasion and enjoy masquerading, but many little children cry and suffer from trauma during the holiday, says Kanotopsky. She explains that changing identities is not always good for little children, who are in the process of developing their own identities and need a stable environment. “It is important not to force children to dress up,” according to Kanotopsky, who suggests that parents help get their children acquainted with a costume several days ahead of time and then “let the children play with it” without dressing up.

Read the full report at Arutz Shevah.

{Arutz Shevah/Yair Israel}


  1. The word “trauma” is one of the most misused in the global lexicon. There are different levels of traumatic experience which can be rated. (See “Trauma and Recovery” by Judith Lewis-Herman and “Betrayal Trauma” by Jennifer Freyd.) e.g. An inappropriate costume for a child rates 0.01/100. There is a great lack of discernment around the world at the moment. There is a range of awareness levels and healing stages on display. Balance and perspective is required.

  2. This lady needs to see a doctor, herself! What a whack job! Next thing she’ll say is that this is causing the Shidduch crises! She’s just a bitter old fool!

  3. MAJOR MAJOR TRAUMA! Theorhetical musings by people who feel entitled by merit of their position, is commonplace and ridiculous.

  4. Ya, when my 17 year old was 4 months old, I dressed him as a penguin, (a pj outfit with a hood) and now all he does today is waddle around the house looking for fish to eat.

  5. Who is this mother who thinks these costumes for kids are normal? One thing I can tell this lady is GOOD LUCK MARRYING HIM/HER OFF!