Report: Forcing Costumes on Babies Can Ruin Purim

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xmas-purim-costumes-smallPurim is a happy and joyous occasion for Jews, but forcing babies and small children to masquerade in unwanted costumes can cause them trauma, according to psychologist Shlomit Kanotopsky.

“Parents who buy costumes for babies often do it for themselves,” says the psychologist, who works at the Ziv Hospital, located in Tzefas. She suggests parents be especially sensitive to children’s fears and trauma that can develop by wearing unwanted costumes, which parents sometimes insist on to justify what often is an expensive purchase.

While adults and older children know Purim as a happy occasion and enjoy masquerading, but many little children cry and suffer from trauma during the holiday, says Kanotopsky. She explains that changing identities is not always good for little children, who are in the process of developing their own identities and need a stable environment. “It is important not to force children to dress up,” according to Kanotopsky, who suggests that parents help get their children acquainted with a costume several days ahead of time and then “let the children play with it” without dressing up.

Read the full report at Arutz Shevah.

{Arutz Shevah/Yair Alpert-Matzav.com Israel}

12 COMMENTS

  1. Its true! my infant suffered trauma from being dressed as a dreidel, and ever since then whenever we spun him around he threw up! mamish hashgacha pratis! this is also causing the shidduch crisis- dressing our daughters as esther makes them expect to marry a king who will grant there every wish, and dressing them as vashti…well, i wont go there, cuz it would just get deleted by the moderator. but use ur imagination

  2. whoever rote this articel has NO HASOGO of the EMES Here in the IR HATORA yes the IR HATORAH for those MODERNISHE KOFRIM out there who dont like heering it, the oilam is noheg for the Tinokos Shel Bais Rabban to dress up and we will never lisen to this MACHSHEIFA we are not mechuyav to lisen to her we wil ONLY LISEN TO DIVREI RABOSEINU yes DIVREI RABOSEINU

  3. #1, this is Yerushalayim, where they have no idea what this is. They prob’ly think it’s cute clown. They’re so far from goyishkeit b”H, they have no problem using xmas paper goods or xmas decoration for Succos.

  4. OY vey, I am in serious trouble. sent my 8 y.o. daughter to school today for her purim party, wearing a vashti costume. nu nu, that’s what she wanted for her costume. Of course, my teenagers were traumatized, looking at all of the fake pimples. I caught my 14 y.o. daughter nervously scanning her face in the mirror all day.

  5. “whoever rote this articel has NO HASOGO of the EMES Here in the IR HATORA yes the IR HATORAH for those MODERNISHE KOFRIM out there who dont like heering it, the oilam is noheg for the Tinokos Shel Bais Rabban to dress up and we will never lisen to this MACHSHEIFA we are not mechuyav to lisen to her we wil ONLY LISEN TO DIVREI RABOSEINU yes DIVREI RABOSEINU”

    Can someone please translate this into comprehensible English?

  6. #10. This Yoshon in #4 lives up to his name. He is the same guy who ranted the other day about the “kefireh” re. the goyim looking for happiness (check the picture with the smileys). He uses the same illiterate spelling and BLUNT CAPITALS for added effect. No deed for a graphology degree here.
    Although a Yoreh Shomayim should be wary of what most psychologists say, I guess Yoshon has a HUGE psychology chip on his shoulder.

  7. As an experienced mother, I don’t think that a costume would cause lifelong trauma to a child. I can, however, make them very miserable. Personally, I dressed my little ones in costumes that resembled regular clothing as much as possible (eg a blue shirt & pants with a police badge, an animal stretchy) and they never had a problem with that. Most of all, make sure Purim is Happy for EVERYONE-even if your neighbors are not bowled over by the adorable theme…

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