People are always yelling about the shidduch crisis and how all of us should be redding shidduchim to help address the crisis. But let me tell you why I have just about had it with trying to make people’s shidduchim:
1. I get asked the dumbest questions imaginable and I am left to find out the details.
2. For many, on both sides, it’s all about money and looks. In most cases, it’s all about money, money, money. And I’ve already learned how to identify those who are looking for money but don’t want to say so outright, and instead they ask the most inane questions. What types of cars do their other married children drive? Do the married kids have expensive strollers or cheap ones like a Maclaren? (Real question.)
3. People are totally unappreciative, don’t return phone calls, and make me feel like they are doing me a favor by listening to my idea.
You know what? I don’t need your favors. Find someone else who is willing to redd your children’s shidduchim. Find someone else to talk to about the bank account you are chasing. Find someone else who doesn’t mind feeling stupid again and again.
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