The halacha is that one is not allowed to ask a merchant about an item, unless the customer really intends to purchase it from the merchant (and not online).
Recently, I bumped into an acquaintance who persisted on badgering me about whats happening with shidduchim. He represented himself as seriously interested in being of assistance, and so (unlike others) I gave him a substantial amount of my time.
When I did not hear from him, I called to inquire about any “follow up.” Without any apologies, he said that he’s busy with shidduchim for his children.
To say I was appalled is an understatement. This gentleman holds himself as a marbitz Torah and a talmid chochom. He was oiver ona’as devorim and genaivas daas.
I know that some will go to town with this. But it seems to me, that in some instances, people’s difficulty with shidduchim may be related to pain that they caused to others in the parsha.
Lakewood , NJ