All I hear about wherever I go is the shidduch crisis. Anyone remotely connected with the frum community – like all Matzav readers – is aware of the “crisis” affecting so many older singles.
But the result of all the outcry and the efforts of those who are pushing for all types of brilliant ideas to change the system is a very distressing new “shidduch crisis” – the epidemic of divorce.
Years ago, divorce was a bad word. Few people got divorced. Nowadays, getting divorced is like going to the bank or grocery store. If you need it, you do it.
The stigma has been watered down.
The age gap people and others have caused many to panic and think that they are “missing the boat,” so girls are jumping at shidduchim, even though the shidduchim are way off base. A girl jumps into a marriage even if the personalities don’t click, and this leads to unhappiness, discord and ultimately divorce.
There’s more to it, but there’s no question that those who view themselves as the saviors of Klal Yisroel are actually causing the breakups of many marriages.