Now that the school year has come to an end, it might be time to reflect on this past school year.
We should take time to think about how our children grew and developed throughout the school year. Think about where our children were holding when they began the year and where they are holding now. It is truly remarkable!
However, we all know that this did not happen by itself. Of course we put a lot of kochos into our children. We spent a lot of time and effort working with them. And that is required of us as parents.
But what about all of those special mechanchim, the rabbeim and moros, who give their lives for our children? They put all of their efforts into their students. They spend their mornings, afternoons, and nights on our children. It takes a lot of time to prepare lessons which can be given over in an enjoyable way. They think about their students 24/7. Their family life is put on a back burner for the entire school year, while they completely dedicate themselves for their talmidim and talmidos.
Do we realize what it is like for a mother of a large family to prepare, teach, write and grade tests, mark progress sheets and report cards, and deal with principals, parents, and students, while at the same time taking care of her own family responsibilities? If you haven’t done it yourself, you cannot imagine what it is like. It is not just the mechanech/mechaneches who has to “give up” their own lives for their students. It is their entire family who has to “give up.” All this is besides giving up their homes for Friday night onegs, seudah shlishis, melava malkas, etc.
This is all done with very little recognition, and for a very small salary. The cost of living has gone up so much in the past few years, while chinuch salaries, for the most part, have remained the same.
And whatever the rabbeim make, the mechanchos make a whole lot less. A lady can work in an office for the same amount of time and make more than triple the salary – with a lot less stress, no parents to deal with, and no take-home work.
Now that the summer is here, many of these special people cannot afford to send their children to any camps, even day camps. Their bank accounts are empty, and they do not live fancy lives. They simply do not make enough to live on.
So why are their children suffering because they give their lives to yours? Why are their children sitting home all day while all their friends are enjoying their summers?
Have we ever even thought about thanking our children’s rabbeim and moros? Have we thought about helping them financially so that they can make it through the summer (and the rest of the year)? Don’t they deserve a peaceful summer vacation so they can recharge and take on the next year with full force? Don’t their children also deserve a decent vacation?
Signed by Someone Whose Children Are Home For The Summer
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