Twin Sons of Mixed Jewish-Arab Marriage Celebrate Their Bar Mitzvah


twin mixed bar mitzvahOur story has a happy ending, but a very painful beginning. It starts with a Jewish woman marrying an Arab, moving in with his family and bearing him four children. Recently, the husband died of complications related to alcohol consumption, and the woman was left totally alone, abandoned by both her Jewish family and that of her Arab husband’s.

The woman wanted to return to Judaism but didn’t know where to begin. Her daughter came to the rescue, phoning Yad L’Achim’s hotline with a plea for help.

“My mother is determined to make her way back to Judaism, despite the difficulties,” she said. “She’s even moved to the south of Israel to be able to raise her children in a Jewish environment so that they can grow up as faithful members of the Jewish people. But she needs help.”

Yad L’Achim responded immediately, pairing the mother with one of its most experienced social workers.

“In our initial meetings, she couldn’t stop talking about what she’d been through,” recalls the social worker. “She spoke of a difficult childhood that led her to enter into a relationship with an Arab, about how her Jewish family severed ties with her and about the challenges of raising children by herself. I reassured her that from that day on she was beginning a new chapter in her life.”

Yad L’Achim found someone in that Negev town to take the woman and her family under their wing. In addition, mentors were found for the children, including twin sons who were nearing Bar Mitzvah age.

The mentors taught the boys how to put on tefillin and how to read from the Torah. Yad L’Achim purchased tefillin of the highest standards for the boys, which they began wearing daily this week after celebrating their Bar Mitzvah. The boys read from the Torah with precision and meaning in a most moving ceremony.

The emotional highlight came when two of the boy’s uncles, their mother’s brothers, entered the shul to participate in the event. These brothers had joined the rest of the family in writing off their sister. But after much effort made by Yad L’Achim to get the family to reestablish ties, the brothers broke down and agreed to grace the double Bar Mitzvah with their presence.

For the mother, the celebration marked a new future for her Jewish sons and a new beginning in her efforts to reconnect to her family.

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