Want to Help Figure Out the Shidduch Crisis?


shidduch-crisisWant to help figure out the shidduch crisis? Participate in a study about dating trends in the Orthodox Jewish community and be entered to win an iPod Touch (or a gift certificate for the same value). Your information will be ­completely anonymous and confidential.

In order to qualify for the study you should:

1. Identify as an Orthodox Jew

2. Be currently single (i.e. not married or engaged)

3. Have been dating or looking to date using the “shidduch system” (i.e. dating for the purpose of marriage only) within the Orthodox community for at least 3 months.

To fill out the survey, click here or go to http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/shidduchsurvey

As thanks for helping with this research, as mentioned, you can be entered into a raffle to win an iPod Touch (or a gift certificate for the equivalent value).  In order to enter the raffle, once you have filled out the survey, send an email to orthodoxjewishdatingstudy@gmail.com.

{Noam Amdurski-Matzav.com Newscenter}


  1. why do you have to be single for this survey? I dated quite a number of years before marriage and would be just as reliable as singles…

  2. to #1: Maybe they want to see what is going on on the current dating scene. I did the survey and I think they are trying to figure out what the trends are of people dating now.
    I wonder whether we will be able to see the results at some point.
    I have to say that I’m not so sure how relevant all the questions were and I wouldn’t mind knowing who is conducting the study and under whose auspices it is.

  3. if singles would just figure out what they really want in a mate maybe things would fall into place or not be so stuborn and really take the time to get to know a person before saying they are not for them

  4. To bt – IMHO, I guess you didn’t internalize this week’s pirkei avos…al tadin es chavercha ad shetagia l’mikomo!

  5. the lubavitcher rebbe wrote incredible insights about shidduchim. One is a green sefer in hebrew called shidduchim u’nissuyim, the other is in english i forget what its called but bookstores that sell chabad will know. its excellent

  6. There should be a second survey for parents of those in the shidduch parsha. This would help to correlate where the problem is, with the young people in the parsha or with their parents! As a mother of a boy in the parsha, I have been told by friends/shadchanim that I am so “open minded” and flexible, but I don’t think so. I see it as being focused on “ikkar” not “tofel”, and if something fits what we (the parents AND the boy, in consultation with our rebbeim) have decided is ikkar (for us) then we will consider it and seriously look into it. In that respect, I think #3 is correct, know who you are and what you are looking for.