Dearest Chosson and Kallah!
Mazal Tov! We are so incredibly happy for you and excited for the amazing future that you will IYH build together!
Whether you were blessed with an easy time in shidduchim or if you met some challenges along the way, we know that the road of shidduchim and dating is often met with confusion, uncertainty and stress.
What better way to start YOUR bayis neeman then by helping your dear single friends navigate this journey with more ease, and possibly having YOUR special day be with the stepping stone to other beautiful shidduchim? While there is ZERO pressure to incorporate this initiative into your simcha, we wish to share our idea with you, in the event that it interests you.
We introduce to you the newest Adopt a Shadchan initiative, “Wedding Redting”! While your friends are all dressed in their best, in order to celebrate your big day, why not use that opportunity to have them be seen and meet their possible match? Our project is simple ; we ask that you let your friends know that during the time after the chuppah, until a few minutes before you come in for dancing , there will be a room designated for singles to meet other singles, along with shadchanim in attendance, who can guide and easily introduce ! Your simcha can be the vehicle to bringing more singles together on a bakovodik, pressure free way!
If you would like more information about the project or would like to take part in it, please email us at [email protected]
Wishing you mazal, bracha and complete happiness,
Lisa, Ruchie & Daniella
Adopt a Shadchan
Until we tackle the age-gap crisis, there’s no hope. People stopped getting engaged because of the age-gap crisis. There hasn’t been an engagement in kllal yisroel in over 2 years. Terrible matzav.
While its a great idea to work on getting singles married, is this the way the it should be. “there will be a room designated for singles to meet other singles” sounds like something that for years the torah way was not like.
Does this have any haskama or backing from our gedolim?
This is the concept of speed dating.
What happened to Tznius and modesty values that they were taught their whole life in this society?
Whos asking for this ? Why reinvent the wheel?
And of its because of the age gap shidduch crisis then how will this help? If the age gap is real then you still will end up with more female then male matter how you slice it.
Alteh Bucher
While you obviously have great intentions it’s a terrible idea. Why don’t you say it as it is? A speed dating/singles event, nothing to do with redding shidduchim. These type of events promote dating without ideals, it’s just externals, there is not enough time to get past that. A better idea would for boys and girls to meet separately with shadchanim at weddings, and if the shadchan feels (s)he may have a match, they can meet then for a few min.
Whos asking for this? Why reinvent the wheel?
If the age gap is the problem the how will this help?
A.B.
I actually thought the idea would be that the kallah sponsors a shadchan to come & meet with the girls that night. I think that would actually be a better idea.
Helping people find a shidduch at a chasunah is something that happened to one couple.
As for the age gap, we have a whole world of history of how women mature before men. Therefor, while men don’t need a heter to marry at 18-19, people should make sure that he is actually ready enough for marriage at that age.
On a personal note, I wanted to get married at 18, but looking back, I was far from ready then.
What about a bachur that goes on a road trip and doesn’t daven with a minyan? What about if the bachur puts on cotton pants and a colored polo shirt when he hikes at the Grand Canyon? What about if the bachur says good morning with a smile to a female cashier in Krogers?
Oy – why are you busying yourself with this instead of working on the agunah crisis. This is a recipe to create more of that. Worry about the agunot.