Dear [email protected],
I am writing to express my frustration and disappointment with neighbors of mine who have repeatedly made insensitive and hurtful comments about my daughter. My daughter, who is off-the-derech, has been struggling to find acceptance and support in her life, and these negative comments from our neighbors – about who she hangs out with, how she dresses, or whatever – have only made it harder for her – and us.
It is not appropriate for anyone to judge or comment on another person’s situation, ever, especially when those comments are made in a rude or disrespectful manner. We have a right to try to steer our daughter back on track without fear of judgment from others. We are trying out best. If you don’t have this nisayon, you have no idea what it’s like.
People have repeatedly made insensitive and hurtful comments about the way I am educating my child. That is cruel.
I can’t go to simchos anymore.
I can’t go to shul anymore.
I can feel the stares boring a hole through through my heart.
As a community, we must strive to be more accepting and understanding of those who may not fit into the mold of what we consider to be “normal.” We must remember that everyone has their own unique path and journey, and it is not our place to judge or marginalize those who are different.
Not every girl is cookie-cutter or fits in a box. Our schools have to get it through their heads. Stop trying to fit everyone into that sick, cruel, narrow box.
And I urge my neighbors, and even family, to consider their words and actions before making negative judgments about others.
Because what goes around comes around.
Today it’s my family dealing with this. Tomorrow…
A Parent in Pain