I thought a lot about writing this letter, but I decided that I must. People are getting hurt every day and nothing is being done about it.
I can be your neighbor. I can be your accountant. I can even be your sibling. I have a job that requires a smartphone. I wish I wouldn’t need it. However, my job is codependent on it. As soon as my field required it, I asked a shailah. My rov asked me different questions as to why I need it. Only after he was sure I really need it did he give me his p’sak. You can only use it with a strong filter. With his haskamah, I went and purchased a smartphone. And I went and purchased the best filter out there.
My phone and Yiddishkeit don’t contradict each other. My kids have zero access to it.
Now for the pain…
I am not hear to be matir smartphones. I am not here to minimize the words of daas Torah or the dangers or horror stories. Every case must be judged individually.
Although everything was done according to daas Torah, we are constantly abused. We are told that we are horrible people. And that we don’t care about Yiddishkeit. And that we will go off the derech.
The rabbanim were the ones who encouraged TAG to open for our types of people. We follow daas Torah on everything. What gives you the right to shame people publicly? What gives you the right to tell people that they are goyim? What gives you the right to say, “Keep far from him! He doesn’t listen to daas Torah!” It’s pure sheker.
You are not doing the right thing. You are harming and degrading innocent people.
The same Torah says to judge people lekaf zechus. So if you see one of us with a meusher sticker, please judge us favorably and know that we asked daas Torah and we are doing what’s right for us.