The Toldos Aharon Rebbe has issued a directive for the members of his kehillah, stating that yeshiva bochurim should not attend weddings because of the tremendous amount of bittul Torah caused.
The Rebbe explained that, in recent months, there has been a proliferation of weddings amongst Toldos Aharon Chassidim and, with the winter coming, additional weddings are expected, and these events have caused great disruption to the learning sedorim of bochurim who attend. The weddings have particularly affected the sedorim in the late afternoon and evening.
The rule will be implemented in stages. The first stage will be to disallow lower-age bais medrash bochurim from attending, but will permit bochurim in third-year bais medrash, friends of the chosson, participate.
It could very well be that even after the full application of the Rebbe’s takanah that very close friends of the chosson and perhaps some others will be permitted to attend, but the exact details will be determined over time.
“The main goal is purely to reduce the amount of bittul Torah, to the extent possible,” a member of the kehillah explained.
{Matzav.com Israel News Bureau}
anyone know the difference between attending a wedding & attending any other simcha?
by a wedding, as long as you are %100 percent sure the chosson/kalla or the baal simcha (whoever you are coming to give mazel tov) saw your presense & was fully focused at the time, you can then go home. theres no difference rather you stay for 2 minutes or 5 hours (of course bidei shomayim every minute of being misameach a chosson &/or kalla is another mitzva)
while any other simcha if you leave, your absence will be noticed right away & will cause insult to the ball simcha
MAY WE ALL ONLY HEAR OF SIMCHOS IN KLAL YISROEL
In Belz already for a long time the custom has been for *no* bachurim to attend, only family.
So who will be mesameach the Chosson, an 85 year old zeide?
In 5734 or 5735 which was approximately 38 years ago, the Bobover Rebbe Z”L told the bochurim not to go to chasunas. His son, the current Bobover Rebbe has reinstated this when he became Rebbe almost 8 years ago.
This is Daas Torah. I am glad Matzav.com publishes articles from the Gedolei HaDor Shlita
Why not a 60 year old Zeide?
to #3 the zeide is 38yrs old;))))
I actually just got back from a wedding
what a smorg! and great bar too
simchos by klal yisruel
may we all celebrate rak smachot
how does we reconcile his ruling with the Gemara which states, “Mevatlen Talmud Torah Lehachnosas Kallah.”
Simcha is one of the 48 essential components needed to acquire Torah.
Sad sad sad matzav indeed
i am a chosson
and i dont want anyone by my wedding
no one
thankx
good roole
It is time to stop allowing these comments. They sound so out of place and idiotic.
Going to chasunos are one of the only outlets available to people.
This takonoh was meant for that kehilla. Other people can ask their own rabbaim or check the relevant torah sources.
Rav Aaron Teitelbaum of Satmar said the same thing years ago
we don’t just stop by the wedding so u can get some magical bonus points in shamayim. U r there to add to the joy of hatan and kala. U showing ur face with ur gemara on ur side doesn’t do anything
to minimize bitul torah we should make a takanna that chassanas (and other simchot) start on time.
Think about 50-200 people standing around after the time the chuppa was called for. Waiting for the badeken to start.
This would save a TON of wasted time (bitul Torah).
Rabbi Yisroel Reisman actually spoke about this exact topic at his Shabbos Shuva Drosho……
And uninvited infants and toddlers should stay home with a babysitter. Frum weddings today look like Preschools.
i dare any bochurim to attend my wedding
How about limiting the time between the chupah and the seudah to 15 minutes. Last chasunah the young couple didn’t come out for 90 minutes. Talk about wasting time!