Rabbi Lior: Youth Violent Because of Moms’ Careers


rabbi-dov-liorKiryat Arba Rabbi Dov Lior believes violence among Israeli teenagers stems from their mothers’ careers. “People say that the youth has a problem of violence,” he said Wednesday. “The problem is that the mother works and it’s hard for her to devote herself to her home.”

According to Rabbi Lior, a woman pursuing a career – whether in a public office or a private one – is not doing the ideal thing as her job is to be a housewife.

The remarks were made in a leaflet which will be distributed in shuls on Shabbos, as part of his support for Rabbi Elyakim Levanon, who has prohibited female residents of the Elon Moreh settlement from running for the office of community secretary.

According to Rabbi Lior, who is considered one of the prominent rulers in Religious Zionism, when her husband’s salary is not enough to provide for the family, a woman can go out to work in any position. “But saying that it’s fitting in the first place, or that I encourage women to go out to work? I believe this is not the Torah’s view. A woman has enough to do inside the house.”

He clarified that “although being a community secretary is not really an appointment but more of a professional manner, and I don’t wish to hurt or belittle a woman’s abilities or respect, these things are inappropriate for women after all.”

Rabbi Lior based his remarks on Rav Kook, who had said that public positions are not suitable for women, and the Rambam, who ruled that men rather than women should be appointed for national assignments.

“When people ask me if I encourage women to go out to work, I say that they should not – not in a way of contempt, God forbid, but because I acknowledge the importance of a woman’s role in the house,” Rabbi Lior concluded.

“Once, when I was a marriage registrar, one kallah was ashamed to say that her mother was a housewife and not a clerk or something of the kind. I told her she had nothing to be ashamed of, as being a housewife is not an eight-hour job but a 24-hour job. It’s important for each person to fill the role given to him by God.”

{Ynet/Yair Alpert-Matzav.com Israel}


  1. Are you suggesting that the Kollelim should send the Yungeleit to work? Should Kollel only be for the wealthy? Perhaps the Seminaries should include that in their curriculum instead of Rambans.

  2. Thank you Rabbi Dov Lior for unabashedly, fearlessly saying the 100% Emes despite hearing it for many people is unpopular and politically incorrect!

  3. absolutely, mama sorah! the world today is upside down. never before in klal yisroel’s history have the roles of women been so skewed. the role of a woman is NOT to be the breadwinner. women should be raising their children FULL time.

  4. Everything here has to do with what society has placed emphasis on and priorities. We read stories of the tzaddikim who’s wives worked in order to support their husbands learning but its easy to take this idea and for indiviual to twist it around , just like anything, and turn it into a ‘need’ for women to work and look down at women who stay at home. Nebach. It comes from the secular world as well this praise of women working as oppose to being a house wife

  5. Mama Sorah, let them include that in addition to the Rambans. Just because someone opts to be a SAHM mother doesn’t mean that the Ramban can’t enhance her Yiddishkeit.
    But it’s not the girls who need this education…

  6. a couple weeks ago there was a matzav rant about how its becoming impossible to support a family nowadays in the frum community.

  7. I wish we would hear that more, here in America. It is out of control. Women seeking “careers” is treif sheba treif! Parnassa – yes, Career – no. What do you think goes through a kids mind when he/she comes back from Cheder & there is a Spanish Goyta waiting to take him/her off the bus? Where is the real Mother to give a warm Hello/hug? The damage is endless R”L! Let’s hope we change the way things are going.

  8. R’ Moshe Meir Weiss noted that over the years of his teaching in seminary, it used to be that 80% of mothers were home and 20% worked and then those numbers reversed.

    What a coincidence, isn’t it, that just over this same period of time we have seen an explosion of kids from frum homes dropping out of Yiddishkeit, kids on drugs, kids in trouble of all kinds.

    But G-d forbid that we can say the truth. Very few people are willing to say it. R’ Lior said it. R’ Z. Wallerstein said it right before Shavuos and it can be heard on Kol Ha’lashon and on torahanytime.com in the shiur entitled “Rus – Between Man and His Fellow Man.” He said:

    When the malochim asked Avrohom where is Sarah, he replied – Sarah is in the ohel! I can’t say it at Ohr Naava or I’ll lose nearly everyone but the man should be out working and the woman home taking care of the house. No career! No OT, PT! No guy should say he wants 5 or whatever years of support from his wife. What is his Torah learning worth if it’s at his wife’s expense?

  9. to #8
    A working mom in the end doesn’t bring home that big of a payroll.
    Babysitting and cleaning ladies take up a huge chunk of the salary.
    As a stay at home mother by choice, I have to say it’s unstimulating, I hate housework, I like going out, and could defifnitely use more money. But you know what, life is not about what I want, it’s what I need to do and that’s being there for my kids. I’ve seen a huge difference between the kids I’ve given to the babysitter by four weeks old and the kids I’ve kept home.

  10. MORENU RAV MORDECHAI GIFTER used to say over a jewish european phrase that says azui vi es kristlachts azu yidditzach translation what is accepted as normal by the the goyim starts becoming normal and accepted by the yidden to some degree if not all the way we frummer yidden have to realize how much we became influenced by the modern contemporary non jewish world to the point that a frum ben torah houswife should be ambarrased to say she is a housewife less than 100 years ago even goyisha woman were proud of their housekeeping childrearing cooking duties and skills