I am writing this letter to Matzav.com about a matter that I have yet to see addressed: the prevalence of pictures of chassanim and kallahs being posted online where the people in the picture are clearly touching each other in violation of halacha.
It would seem strange that people would post photos of themselves violating halacha, right after their engagement no less.
The halacha is clear, as most Matzav readers surely know, but I double checked with a noted rov just to be safe before writing this letter. There is no hetter for chassanim and kallahs to make contact, especially when it is in the fashion seen in many, if not most, engagement photos online. It is not incidental. It is shameful. It is embarrassing.
Whether sites should be posting such photos is one issue. What I wonder about is why the people themselves, the chassanim and kallahs, don’t realize how embarrassing it is for them to be putting their ignorance and stupidity on display for all to see. Would someone post a photo of themselves eating treif or being mechallel Shabbos? I am obviously only using these scenarios as examples, but it should give us an idea of how people view a newly-engaged boy and girl who violate the issur of negiah and then have pictures taken of themselves that way.
Where’s the chinuch? Where are the parents? What’s wrong with these people? Pardon my bluntness, but where are the brains?
Matzav readers, it’s time to say ad kan. If a chosson and kallah choose to violate halacha, that is an issue that should be addressed, but surely, most definitely, we should not be complicit in publicizing their ignorance, unawareness or plain foolishness.
A Concerned Jew