The Matzav Shmoooze: It’s Not The Postman’s Fault


stampsDear Editor,

I mailed out chasunah invitations two weeks ago. Most people I sent them to did not get them.

Truth be told, I bought the stamps from someone offering a “discount” for large purchases. I figured that I would save a couple of dollars.

The manager in the post office told me that there are a lot of fraudulent stamps printed with high quality printers. These stamps don’t make it past the post office’s optical scanner.

Learn from my mistake. Buy your stamps from the post office and your invitations will arrive.

Don’t blame the postman.

A Reader

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  1. I sent out invitations for my sons Bar Mitzvah a couple of years ago and I purchased stamps from the post office and many people did not receive the invitations. I believe that if you send out a number of invitations they throw some of them out.

  2. What a whole lot of hooey. I bought stamps from the post office. Half of my invitations were never delivered. So many of my friends have the same experience.

  3. It helps that you don’t put all the invitations in one mailbox. rather drive around and put about 20-30 in different mailboxes. i found this to work really good for the last few simchos we made. good luck

  4. I heard that if you put them in mailboxes on odd numbered blocks that’s better than even. And if you mail them on days of the week with “R” in the name that’s better. And if you jump up and down three times after mailing them that’s the best thing.

  5. What a coincidence that many Seminaries bought their stamps there too. Responses came really late. I think it has to do with bulk mailings, not where you buy your stamps.

  6. Baloney! This is simply not true!Had it been true nobody would have gotten their invitations. These people are making an honest living by purchasing stamps wholesale. Matzav you are killing people’s parnassah!

  7. Chazal say that we should be grateful to ?????, because through them, there is a ????? ???? on those people who do not give ????.
    We should be grateful to the post-office, because through their neglect, we need not get offended when we don’t get invited to a Simcha – most probably it was lost in the mail!!

  8. There’s also the possibility that the invitations are getting thrown out with the junk mail. Some tzedakah letters are beginning to look like invitations. And if you have a lot of junk mail and circulars they could easily get mixed in. I once almost threw out a paycheck that got stuck in with a bunch of advertisements!

    And remember – if something sounds too good to be true – it is. That “wonderful bargain” may be no bargain at all.

  9. I send out more than 200 postcard inviatatiosn every month. I mail all of them together, all at the same time. I admire the results that I get. Almost all of hem are delivered the very next day. The rest arrive on the second day, and a very few arrive after that.

  10. my einikel is getting married in 2 weeks. my son sent out invitations about 10 days ago. mine has yet to arrive. and we live in the same zip code.

    my next door neighbor married off his daughter the past summer. I didn’t get an ivitation. We are such good friends that I went to the chasenah regardless, knowing that it must have been an oversight.

    I DID recieve an invitation. It arrived 3 WEEKS AFTER the chasenah. It was postmarked 6 weeks earlier.

  11. Reasonable to surmise that many of those who claim not to have received the invitation use it as a convenient excuse for not responding. Don’t need to be a rocket scientist to figure that out.

  12. Forget the paper: send email. 3/4 of people invited to anything–chasanah, birthday party, Kiddush–never RSVP, and you have to telephone them anyway.

    BTW, the USPS makes serious money wholesaling stamps to retailers like Costco and supermarkets. Buying at a post office buys you nothing.

  13. I have a rubber stamp that looks exactly like computer printed postage. You know, the kind that business uses. I need only a stamp pad and I can send as many letters and invitations as necessary.