I can hear you already: “What does it matter what a man thinks of seminary?” The answer is harsh but true. It matters a great deal, because we are the ones who have to pick up the pieces. Chas veshalom, none of us are against the lofty ideals espoused and theoretically taught in seminary. I would love to see our sisters and daughters in those theoretical seminaries. The fact is, however, that until seminaries are what some seem to think they are, I will do all I can to keep my daughters out of them.
The reasons are simple:
Men currently spend many years for each year their wives were in seminary deprogramming them, and even that never really undoes the damage. A person’s job is to live their life for Hashem. If Hashem wants a man to spend his life serving him in some other field than klei kodesh, that man certainly does not need his eizer kinegdo crying that he is not spending all his time learning. Nor do we need our wives having no appreciation for the G-dly task of raising a family.
Why am I the first one to tell my wife that the reason she is not obligated to do many of the mitzvos is because her life is intrinsically more holy and she does not need to do all that us men need to do to bring us closer to Hashem?
Do you think we appreciate hearing our wives moan that they didn’t daven well this Yom Kippur because they had to take care of the kids?
I hate to say it, but if that is how you feel, there are other religions that feel that way as well. Raising children (and that does not mean having a “goyta” take them so that you can daven more, or working full time) is as holy a calling as there is and our womenfolk are being robbed of a meaningful life by those who claim to be adding meaning to their lives.