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I was the “older single” in my family. My younger siblings got married one by one and had children. On seder night last year, a family member bought me a present: participation in the tefillos at Amukah of the Vaad. It was such a meaningful gift, and I davened and cried, asking Hashem to split the sea for me too this year.
After years of unsuccessful dating, I was engaged in a month.”
– Rivka
This is one of the amazing true stories told by a donor to Vaad HaRabbanim’s Amukah campaign. Every year, money is gathered at this fund to help the poor of klal yisroel, and messengers gather by Amukah on the night of Shvi’i Shel Pesach to pray for its donors.
Each name submitted is taken with care and prayed for by Amukah all year long, from the time of the donation UNTIL THE PERSON IS MARRIED. Amukah, the tomb of Yonasan ben Uziel, is known to be a powerful place for those praying to find their soulmate. Shvi’i shel Pesach specifically is known to be a fortuitous time for praying for one’s soulmate as well. This past year 90% of those who participated in the Amukah campaign of Pesach 5781 got engaged.
Tremendous
90% got engaged from last year? Can they document that? It seems rediculously high.
Maybe the prayers worked by getting some common sense in their kopf and these singles let go of ridiculous demands and expectaions?
Maybe the 90% (no doubt a made-up number) are those who statistically would have become engaged anyway within that year and the 10 % (no doubt the number is actually higher) are those who statistically would not have been expected to become engaged.
Meaningful data would be to compare the Amika sample to the non-Amuka sample, to see the statistical differences and then isolate the determinative factors.
Maybe they stopped being baal/balos gaivah and decided to give everyone a chance. Because real Emunah means if you are being set up with someone then Hashem wants you to go out for some reason. And if you think you can use you logic to reject people you will keep being single for a long time.
Koshe Zivugo Shel Adam Kikrias Yam Suf. Hashem Himself sits and is Mezaveg Zivugim.
Which implies that’s it’s no easy feat.
The Gemara records what happened when a Baal Gaava that thought he knows better just put together makes and females. It didn’t end well.
Blaming other peoples Tzaros on their lack of Emuna doesn’t seem like the correct way to go.
The Gemara compares finding a zivug to finding Parnassa. Do you publicly and privately preach about and to the Aniyim too that they just have Emuna or do you realize that some things actually come from Hashem?
It would be very nice if an organization would give a suggestion that doesn’t involve giving them money