I work in a frum office in a vibrant frum community, and I am appalled at the abuse that goes on. We are all kollel wives, trying our hardest to support our husbands and families. The stress we deal with on a daily basis is enormous. Must our bosses add to our stress by speaking to us in disrespectful ways, or giving us demeaning jobs?
In our office it is not unusual for our male boss to ask one of the ladies to shlep a box to his car for him, or to go buy him lunch from a local takeout store. Mind you, we were hired to do office work and were never informed that this may include “other jobs.” Many ladies are afraid to protest, as this is their only means of support.
Verbal abuse can be just as harmful as physical abuse, often leading to panic attacks and real emotional problems. Putting down an employee’s work, accusing too quickly – without first finding out the facts, or just plain not giving credit where credit is due all fall under this category. Showing sincere appreciation and saying thank you is really not that difficult, and should be a given (especially at 2:00 in the morning the night before a big event).
I cannot leave out the fact that when we come home to our real jobs (caring for our families), it is very difficult to be a calm and happy mother after such an abusive day.
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