By Rabbi Ron Yitzchok Eisenman
What is one of the two most joyous days of the Jewish calendar? Well guess what? If you guessed today (the fifteenth of Av, known as Tu B’av) you would be correct.
The other day is Yom Kippur.
On these two happy days the unmarried girls of Jerusalem dressed in white garments and went out to dance in the vineyards (Babylonian Talmud, tractate Ta’anit 30b-31a).
It was indeed a joyous time as many matches were made on Tu B’av.
It was a time when loneliness was banished for so many young men and young women as with the dancing in the vineyards came the young men and they picked their perspective brides and marriages were made.
Young men and young women- some poor and some rich; some from fine pedigree homes and some from simple homes; some of the maidens were beautiful and some were not. However, they were all united in attempting to their best to become good and loyal Jewish wives and Jewish mothers.
We no longer observe Tu B’av in the same fashion.
We no longer have young maidens go out dancing in the vineyards and young men observing them to pick their ‘basherts’.
We have a ‘shidduch crisis’ as there are too many young fine women (and some young fine men as well) who are struggling and suffering in silence as they await the day that their soul-mate will find them.
They say Tehillim and they give Tzedoka; they make Kiddushim and they daven at Mekomos Kedoshim (holy places); however, many are still waiting and hoping.
We no longer have public dancing; however, that doesn’t mean people do not need assistance in finding their bashert.
Take time out of your busy day today and attempt to assist one young woman or man to find their bashert.
Take a moment of your day and think about a possible Shidduch for one young man or woman.
And at the very least, say a perek of Tehillim and daven for a young woman or man who lives in loneliness and suffer in silence and ask Hashem to help them connect to their zivug (soul-mate).
Rabbi Ron Yitzchok Eisenman is rov of Congregation Ahavas Israelin Passaic, New Jersey .