Dear Matzav.com Editor,
I read your article yesterday about a gathering for high school parents in Lakewood and what I found interesting was not so much the article but the comments to the story.
Some of the commenters are obviously so lost on this.
I am 20 years old, several years removed from what I would call “my stage.” I went through a difficult time. By the time I was really struggling, cell phones were the least of my problems. However, what I want to just tell you and your readers is that a cell phone was the main thing for me to get where I wanted to go at that point in my life. You can’t wipe away the power of a cell phone but not for the reasons people believe.
Let me give you an example to make my point. People say that cell phones are dangerous because they have internet access. I hate to break it to you, but that’s the least of the problem. (Internet access can be gotten at any library, so the internet is not the issue. As for television being on the phone, I hate to say but as some point television is the least of the problems of a kid at risk.) The most dangerous part of the cell phone, at least when I had one at about age 15 or 16, were the chain text messages I would get letting me know where the “action” was. I know this is a kosher site, so I won’t get specific, but if I wanted to hang out, how would I find out where to go? It was all through my cell phone. I would get a text: “Go right now to Ave. M and 18th. Some people there.” My cell phone was my window to the world I wanted to be a part of.
There was a while when my phone broke and I had to save up money for a new one. During the time, I had to borrow phones and get by otherwise and I felt lost. I couldn’t stay in touch with my “friends” (others who were also struggling with themselves, their self esteem, their parents, etc.).
So are phones and text messages themselves dangerous? I don’t think they are like the internet. It is the stuff and info I got and the networking that I was able to do that I think was and probably is the main factor.
Been There and Have Crawled Back