Not to take away any inspiration for someone to learn more, as this article says, but – in addition – if you would like Kaddish said then:
I am zochech to live on a block (in an area in Eretz Yisroel) where more than 10 frum men can all see each other from their mirpesot (balconies), all more than 10 metres away from each other (or a floor above), with no thoroughfare between us, everything strictly in accordance with all health authority guidelines, and local poskim. According to all the poskim (Ashkenazi) I’ve consulted with or heard from, we are permitted to daven all dvarim b’kedusha.
If anyone would like me to BE”H say kaddish d’yesomim for you, then please just let me know, or submit a name to try to have in mind, and any particular day (or days).
(I’m sorry I didn’t think to offer this sooner. I’m not looking for any compensation for this (other than in OH”B), so please just regard this as a service if it is useful to you. If you’d prefer to contact me privately then let me know here and perhaps we can arrange.)
Even though the saying of kaddish and prayers are helpful to [the souls of] the parents, yet they are not the main thing. The most important thing is that the children walk in the path of righteousness, because with that they gain Heavenly favor for their parents. . . . A person should, therefore, instruct his children to observe one certain mitzvah [with particular care]. If they fulfill [this mitzvah] it counts for more than saying the kaddish. This is also a good course [to follow] for a person who has no sons, only daughters.
I would like to add from my personal experience(s).
In a discussion with Rav Pam zt”l, he explained to me that the goal is Aliyas Neshoma; what will bring the greatest Nachas Ruach to the Neshama/HKB”H.
Thus, when faced with a possible Machlokes in shul as to whom should get the amud, it is a greater z’chus for the Neshama if one relents to the other, thus obviating a Machlokes (unless the other side really has no valid claim).
Second, while living in Manhattan, I went on a late evening Hatzalah call and did not return until all the Manhattan minyanim had finished, and I missed the opportunity to say Kaddish for my late mother a”h. I called Rabbi Hillel David shlit”a and asked him if I had to drive to Boro Park in order to say Kaddish.
His response: the Hatzalah call you went on was a much greater Aliyas Neshama for your mother than saying Kaddish; daven b’yechidus, say a Mishnah, and go to sleep!
We have a beautiful minyan in Yerushalayim with 5 men saying kaddish for whoever needs it. Please contact us through our website: http://www.chessed365.org
Only asking that you send a donation to any Yeshiva of your choice.
Tizku l’Mitzvos
רב יוסף האן נרדלינגן of Frankfurt, a member of the של”ה’s בית דין when the של”ה was a רב in Frankfurt, who wrote a ספר called יוסף אומץ. It is at the same time both a ספר מנהגים and ספר הלכה. But the most important thing, which people overlook he says, the biggest זכות, is לימוד תורה, learning Torah! Another point he makes is, תפלות קדישים ברכו… are mainly for עמי הארץ (unlearned people) – but if you can learn, and you learn, ‘לימוד תורה מועיל שבעתים’ (לימוד תורה helps seven fold), more than all these תפלות…. Through that, not only מעלין מגיהנם, but מכניסין לגן עדן (they take the נפטר to גן עדן), which is a greater level. And if the son goes further and he is מחדש חידושי תורה, he’s a למדן and is on a level that he creates his own חידושים!
Not to take away any inspiration for someone to learn more, as this article says, but – in addition – if you would like Kaddish said then:
I am zochech to live on a block (in an area in Eretz Yisroel) where more than 10 frum men can all see each other from their mirpesot (balconies), all more than 10 metres away from each other (or a floor above), with no thoroughfare between us, everything strictly in accordance with all health authority guidelines, and local poskim. According to all the poskim (Ashkenazi) I’ve consulted with or heard from, we are permitted to daven all dvarim b’kedusha.
If anyone would like me to BE”H say kaddish d’yesomim for you, then please just let me know, or submit a name to try to have in mind, and any particular day (or days).
(I’m sorry I didn’t think to offer this sooner. I’m not looking for any compensation for this (other than in OH”B), so please just regard this as a service if it is useful to you. If you’d prefer to contact me privately then let me know here and perhaps we can arrange.)
Brocha, hatzlocha u’brius.
Matzav doesn’t let “commenters” get in touch with each other. There’s no way to accomplish what you offer. But thanks for the kind gesture.
Mr. Anonymous Shlita, What is your contact information? Thank you
Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 26:22:
Even though the saying of kaddish and prayers are helpful to [the souls of] the parents, yet they are not the main thing. The most important thing is that the children walk in the path of righteousness, because with that they gain Heavenly favor for their parents. . . . A person should, therefore, instruct his children to observe one certain mitzvah [with particular care]. If they fulfill [this mitzvah] it counts for more than saying the kaddish. This is also a good course [to follow] for a person who has no sons, only daughters.
I would like to add from my personal experience(s).
In a discussion with Rav Pam zt”l, he explained to me that the goal is Aliyas Neshoma; what will bring the greatest Nachas Ruach to the Neshama/HKB”H.
Thus, when faced with a possible Machlokes in shul as to whom should get the amud, it is a greater z’chus for the Neshama if one relents to the other, thus obviating a Machlokes (unless the other side really has no valid claim).
Second, while living in Manhattan, I went on a late evening Hatzalah call and did not return until all the Manhattan minyanim had finished, and I missed the opportunity to say Kaddish for my late mother a”h. I called Rabbi Hillel David shlit”a and asked him if I had to drive to Boro Park in order to say Kaddish.
His response: the Hatzalah call you went on was a much greater Aliyas Neshama for your mother than saying Kaddish; daven b’yechidus, say a Mishnah, and go to sleep!
We have a beautiful minyan in Yerushalayim with 5 men saying kaddish for whoever needs it. Please contact us through our website: http://www.chessed365.org
Only asking that you send a donation to any Yeshiva of your choice.
Tizku l’Mitzvos
רב יוסף האן נרדלינגן of Frankfurt, a member of the של”ה’s בית דין when the של”ה was a רב in Frankfurt, who wrote a ספר called יוסף אומץ. It is at the same time both a ספר מנהגים and ספר הלכה. But the most important thing, which people overlook he says, the biggest זכות, is לימוד תורה, learning Torah! Another point he makes is, תפלות קדישים ברכו… are mainly for עמי הארץ (unlearned people) – but if you can learn, and you learn, ‘לימוד תורה מועיל שבעתים’ (לימוד תורה helps seven fold), more than all these תפלות…. Through that, not only מעלין מגיהנם, but מכניסין לגן עדן (they take the נפטר to גן עדן), which is a greater level. And if the son goes further and he is מחדש חידושי תורה, he’s a למדן and is on a level that he creates his own חידושים!